Toxic Traits That Hold Back Success and Happiness
Updated: Apr 18
Success is not something you can acquire overnight. It requires a lot of sleepless nights, sacrifices, and even heartaches! But have you ever worked so hard in your life, and realized you're still stuck? Do you assess yourself to see which areas of your life you need to work on? You may have the burning desire to succeed, but once in a while, you need to do a thorough self-check because maybe there are things that drag you down.
You need to address your toxic traits and those around you. Not only will they hold you back from becoming successful, but toxic traits can also cause serious damage to your physical and mental health. For you to address the problem, you first need to identify what these traits are:
Distractions come in many forms, and oftentimes they are things that you are comfortable doing. Let’s say you want to apply for a job but constantly keep on putting it off. You’re either thinking you can do it the next day, week, or month! If you resort to thinking that something will always be available, that’s one way of distracting yourself. Because the truth is, the perfect time is acting on the present! You may miss out on great opportunities if you choose to do things at a later time.
NOT SETTING GOALS
Deadlines can be taxing, but they serve a purpose. When setting goals, you need to have a reasonable time frame. This will make you more focused, motivated, and eager to accomplish the goals you set. Goal setting allows you to be organized and gives you a clear picture of what you want to achieve. It will also give you direction, and at the same time, you can assess your progress.
WHEN YOU CEASE TO LEARN
Continuous learning sustains the mind. That is why you should never stop yourself from growing and learning. Learning should not stop when one has completed the academic study. It’s an ongoing process that can take you to greater heights. The more you learn, the more knowledge and skills you acquire. And when you are proficient, more doors will open for you.
If you feel envious of other people's success, it means you don’t believe in your capabilities. Not to mention, this negative trait is also a waste of time and energy. So instead of minding other people’s business and letting your green-eyed monster take over, why not work on yourself to be better? As long as you refuse to give up, you too will have your moment.
You probably have lost count of the number of times you have encountered the phrase, “Change is the only constant in life.” Where there is change, there is also growth. People who fear change are those who are used to living inside their bubbles. They are not comfortable with change happening in their lives and don't accept the fact that adversity is one factor that will help them obtain success.
ASKING FOR VALIDATION
You will never find success and happiness if you always seek people’s approval! If you constantly ask for validation, it can affect the decisions you make in life. You need to draw the line between occasionally asking for others’ opinions and making it a habit, and becoming reliant on them. You must be confident enough to take a step towards achieving what you want in life without being bothered by what other people have to say. In this case, your opinion is the only one that matters.